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Subject:

The legal system helps the abuser continue to abuse

Name:

Ellen

Email:

erp6467@msn.com

Date:

02/05/2005

Time:

04:30 PM -0000

Story

I should have known my problems were just starting with my first encounter with law enforcement. My ex-fiance became abusive due to excessive drinking to deal with depression resulting from severe medical problems. We had purchased a house together in anticipation of our marriage but before that could happen he got sick. He drank to excess every night and then picked a fight. I guess I'm lucky that he didn't beat the crap out of me but I was pushed, threatened and verbally abused in every way he could find. He was abusive to my teen age children. He broke furniture and wrecked the house. December 23 2003 I called the sherriff. And on December 24 I had to call them again because the night before they had told me in front of him that because his name was on the property too he had a right to do anything he wanted to in his house. My Christmas tree had been thrown across the room, chairs were smashed my children were crying and the abuser was out on the porch with the deputies and I could hear them all laughing. They got testy with me when I got upset. I had to call his brother who took him home but by noon Christmas Day he was back with a bottle of Vodka and tormented us until he passed out on the couch. The next Monday I was at the court house and managed to get a temporary protection order. The clerk asked about a police report and when I told her there wasn't one she looked at me in amazement. So he hired himself a lawyer and the abuse continued, only now it was legal. He had "rights" one of which was he could sue me to sell the house even though I had provided the down payment and substantial funds for a renovation he had started and never finished. He was not ordered to pay any of the bills that existed when he was removed. He got his lawyer to make me liable for those as I was living in the house. Even though they were bills for the period he was living there. I was forced to change all utilities into my name which necessitated security deposits and lots of paperwork to remove his name. He had used money from our home equity account to pay his income tax, fix his race car, pay personal bills, etc to the tune of $10,000. I am paying that bill too. When he came with the court's blessing to retrieve his personal property he removed items which I am paying for as well as items which were necessary for maintainance of the property. I couldn't find a nail when I needed one. He refused to return anything even items he wasn't supposed to take. No one cared. I complained to my lawyer and he just shrugged. Oh well. He only backed down from forcing me to sell the house when he realized there was no equity in it and he wouldn't get any money. He signed off on the protection order because he didn't want his dirty laundry aired in front of the judge. I can keep my house if I can get it refinaced which I can afford. But he has delayed things because he knows the financial burden I am under with the present mortgage payments. I had perfect credit 6 months ago but the legal delays have caused the bills to back up and I have been turned down for a refinance because of my credit score. I am looking elsewhere for help and hope I can find someone who will give me a chance. My lawyer has been condecending at best incompetent at worst. I was beginning to wonder who's side he was on and then this week when I asked for assistance with a problem he was partially responsible for he dropped me as a client. He was getting paid as agreed but he said I was being "unreasonable". Jeff (my ex-fiance) has abided by the protection order, he has basically left me alone (which means he has found a new victim). But the legal system has allowed and at times encouraged him to continue his abuse through other forms. He has pushed me to the brink of bankruptcy, ruined my credit and made me an emotional wreck. He has hidden his whereabouts from me by hiding behind his attorney and tells people I was the abuser, that he's the victim. He's charming but manipulative and I'm sure he even has his lawyer fooled. But then his lawyer has never been around him when he is drunk. He is out to punish me for putting him out and he is getting alot of help. The laws need to changed. As well people's perceptions. I am so tired of the attitude from people that I deserve what I'm getting because I "knew" what I was getting into. Like somehow it's my fault. Don't they realize we beat ourselves up enough for our "sins"? I know women are killed and hurt physically and emotionally every day because they are too scared or ashamed to leave. It took alot of guts for me to do what I did but I sometimes wonder if I would have tried if I had known the grief and hardship to come. Maybe it was my ignorance that helped me get out. But there's little support now. We continue to be abused by the system. We are made destitute and homeless by laws that allow the abuser to continue the pain. We seem to put so much emphasis on getting victims out but there's not much help after that. There need to be laws that protect our finances and credit. To protect us from being sued by the abuser. They are allowed to ruin us through other means. Someone who has a protection order filed against them should not be allowed to sue the party they abused. Whose rights are important here. I'd like to hear from other women who have stopped the physical abuse but have continued to be abused through the system. Also if anyone knows a mortgage company that will work with someone like me let me know. My time is running out. Thanks for listening. We need to get together and make someone listen.